I need advice, and exercise

Well another beautiful day ruined at the end...what should I do? But I'm getting ahead of myself. Classes were alittle stressing today and I had no desire to work ahead this afternoon so I went home right after class and played 2 hours of DDR with Tom and then 2 sets of tennis against him 3-6 6-3. Let's just say my legs will hurt tomorrow, but I just had to work off school stress and such and just exercise. I'm such a lard right now...damn near 265 pounds I bet. Absolutely ridiculous and I hope I can DDR or jog or something to build up some more muscle and burn away this extra fat from the last 2 years of undergrad. But anyways, enough about that...
So tonight I call Kelley and we talk for an hour and it all but ruins my whole day (and hers too probably) and we did not even really get into a fight. Well not an organized one anyways. We were talking for 25 minutes about stuff and she brings up the school choir situation and wonders whether or not she will get in. Well Dr. J the guy in charge has never gotten along with her too well and he seems like a real stickler for rules. I understand why you want choir students there practicing all but one day a week, but schedules change and half of Title IX wouldn't be able to come to choir but 2-3 times a week and therefore by his rules would be thrown out of choir and Title IX for this reason. Apparently she tried out today and he said he loved her tone quality and her voice, but wanted to know if she would come back to choir in winter and spring if he did not let her in for fall because of the rules he sets forth about attendance. Kelley said no because she would be out of Title IX all year then which is the only really big reason she is joining choir again this year I think.
So we are talking about this and I explain my view on the subject. Nothing harsh, just explaining that Dr. J sounds like a rules stickler and it worries me that he loves her tone quality but is asking her about coming back for winter if he drops her now. I know rules sticklers in law school and this sounds no different, except that he at least is considerate of what really should be the only thing that matters in making this choir and that is talent. I would rather have someone who comes 3 days a week (because you cannot really pick your schedule in her major, they just kindof have 1 class offering and you take it) than someone less talented who comes 4 days a week. Well she gets all pissy and interprets this as an attack on her, not on Dr. J or what I really meant which was a commentaryon Dr. J and nothing further. She says I am attacking her by saying he has to bend the rules because she is someone special or something. That intention couldn't be farther from the truth and I really think she's just being very defensive about this situation...which leads her to put words in my mouth I don;t say. And as a law student, there is nothing I cannot stand more than someone putting words in my mouth. If I eff up and say something dumb I can accept that, but an obvious misinterpretation of our conversation bothers the hell out of me.
Then we "talked" for 30 more minutes. By talked I mean I brought up 5-8 topics and talked about them trying to get her to talk and she said mabe 25 words total in response. Meanwhile, she is watching a movie and eating and she claims that's why she's quiet. Well we all know why she's quiet and I feel completely stepped on. But what can I do because she insists that she has to do something else (chat online, play pool online, watch a movie, etc) while talking to me or the dead spots of our convos drive her insane. I cannot multitask when I talk to her or else I tend to lose track of what we are talking about. I feel absolutely stomped on tonight for no good reason in my mind. I cannot tell her off about this multitasking or this misinterpretation without sounding selfish and childish. When we fight it is always about what I do or neglect to do to show affection for her...meanwhile I let her get away with stomping all over my heart on nights like tonight and I just sit here and cry and have to vent online just to get to sleep tonight.
I adore Kelley. I just absolutely hate phone relationships, which is what we have when we are in school. If we were talking in a room together most of these problems disappear, so I intend to keep my mouth shut on most of this stuff and just be a man and let it go...hopefully this stuff will work itself out if we move in together next year. I cannot stand days like today when everything goes so well and then something stupid like this ruins it. And if we were talking in person, I don't think there's any way we could've had these mini-arguments and not been better 2-3 minutes later or maybe not have them at all because I can express myself more clearly in person.
Feeling like a terrible human being again tonight...and this from a mere conversation with the person I love more than anyone else in the world. Some days I call her after a rough day and it picks my whole day up, and then there's days like today which do the opposite. And this stuff happens, but fights or arguments like today's are not going to happen as frequently in person I would think.
Speaking of things that irritate me but are not important enough to bring up: when I was in Athens and Marietta last weekend, I had forgotten my ring "engagement ring" which I wear like a wedding band until we replace it on the big day. I missed it all weekend when I left it by my rasor that morning at my C-bus apartment...so I was complaining about leaving it behind. At which point I realize she doesn't have hers on either. And she doesn't put it on the next day either...and I ask her about it and she just says she left it off when she was putting lotion on that morning. I mean that's a minor thing to be irritated about and I know I did not have mine on, but it bothered me that she is just ok with not wearing it. And if she doesn't wear it around me, I worry it happens more when I'm not around. I wear my engagement ring with pride every day and I guess I shouldn't be bothered by all this because I'm making more of it than there really is. I just worry...it's the subtle actions which speak volumes sometimes and I realize that now more than ever.
God, I pray that we can get past the small stuff this year. I'd hate to lose the best woman in the world to shit like this. I better stop writing though or else I will just keep bitching about stuff which probably is not important.
Advice anyone? Man up...or what?